In a day and age of opportunity, both good and bad, we are constantly making choices. Some of those may be driven but what we'd deem "good intention", the lack of moral principles and integrity in which some decisions are made can still come bite us in the butt, or in this case steam roll us over.....twice!
Admittedly, the fact that Facebook broke down shortly after this story broken probably delayed its immediate mass spread but by now I'm sure every Full House family, Hallmark-loving fan of "Aunt Becky" is shocked she could do such a thing. Afterall, she's always been the super mom with the sweetest tone and best advice.
In case you have been living detached, here's the deets.
“Dozens of individuals involved in a nationwide conspiracy that facilitated cheating on college entrance exams and the admission of students to elite universities as purported athletic recruits were arrested by federal agents in multiple states and charged in documents unsealed on March 12, 2019, in federal court in Boston. Athletic coaches from Yale, Stanford, USC, Wake Forest, and Georgetown, among others, are implicated, as well as parents and exam administrators,” federal prosecutors said in a press release.
We all make mistakes and the ramifications of this decision in all of their lives will most likely be punishment enough, but what we should focus on instead of judging is what we could learn from this. Because lets be honest, we are all trying to do what we think is best.
Own Your Mistakes
I'll be the first to admit I've made A LOT of mistakes. The ones that took a while to "learn from" really were a way of deflecting blame. When you create excuses for a mistake it creates a lie. Denying it doesn't make it any less true. You act as though it's not your fault when you know it is. Just own it. Take the fault on yourself, reflect on the mistake, and own it, because you’ve already paid for it, so you might as well learn something.
Treat It As A Lesson
Everything in life should be treated as a learning experience, especially the bad things. I'm one who has grown up "learning the hard way" but I honestly doubt I would have learned some of my best lessons any other way. It doesn't mean that was the right way, but I try and use every situation to learn how to be better, do better and use it as a shared experience for others to learn from. (You know the ones who don't have to learn the hard way)
Integrity Always Wins
This goes for BOTH those committing the foul and those "judging" it. While I don't agree with her decision, it's not our place to shame and judge her either. That says more about our own character than hers. We should live a life that uses an internal meter for decision making and its simple. Is this the right thing to do? Integrity is a daily practice, its consistency, and uncompromising when it comes to moral principles and values.
No matter how badly we want something, even for our kids, it's important to not only hold true to our morals and values for ourselves, but it is demonstrating our character to the world and most importantly to our kids! Be an example.
My point, mistakes are only "setbacks" if you don't learn from them. In the middle of someone else's mistake, remember the kind of grace you'd like to receive if the tables were turned. Grace doesn't mean to ignore but remember that people are human. In the middle of your mistake, ask yourself what can I learn from this?